Registered Member of British Association of Counselors and Psychotherapists (BACP)
Appointment by prior arrangement excluding Mondays
Morning: Tuesday to Saturday
Afternoon: Tuesday to Friday
Evening: Tuesday to Friday
I got into counselling when I worked for the NHS. We all have to do certain things to expand our knowledge and counselling was suggested. I did a taster course to begin with and after this I was hooked due to seeing how people changed and felt about themselves when they finished so I carried on until I was qualified. I did some of my training in the NHS under the Head Psychiatrist and then went to Northampton Rape Crisis where I finished up training. I love the work there so much that I have been there now for six years and continue once a week.
Over the years I have met many clients coming for help with either rape or historical childhood sexual abuse, sexual abuse, young or old, different genders, races, I could go on, however they all come because they need to sort out how they feel about themselves to feel in control again and not to be scared of what has affected them.
This for me is my job, although I don’t feel like its a job because when I meet these clients they come to me maybe sad or confused, not in control of how they feel but together we work towards them becoming what they want to be.
It’s not just what has happened to them that we look at, clients come with a range of other issues that are a result of what has happened. Eating disorders such as comfort eating, anorexia, self harm, no self esteem, lack of confidence, feeling low in mood. Many many things can affect you when you have been raped or been subjected to abuse. How you feel about yourself, how you see yourself and how you react or relate to others, it can affect you in these ways and other ways too.
Therefore when I see a client I see and hear about the whole person, we go on a journey together, the client over time trusting me and me trusting the client. Together we look at all those scary things, the way it makes the client feel, how it makes them react but I am there with them holding that story for them and gradually the process begins and over time they become what they want to be, can live how they want to live and be the best they can be.
Just to finish up here, many clients are afraid that they have to tell all. This is not the case. If you don’t want to give details you really don’t have to, it’s not for me to tell anyone what to say or do, you lead and I follow it’s your story and you are in control of it. I do not advise.