Shirley Marais Counselling
Evening and daytime appointments. Last appointment is at 8pm on a Tuesday and Wednesday evening.
Sessions are 50 minutes in length and are offered on the same day and time each week.
I offer Individual and Relationship Counselling, and I also work with Infant Loss and Bereavement.
Counselling is an opportunity to be heard in a safe and non-judgemental way where you will be valued and accepted for who you are and what you are experiencing. This way of working can help you explore and understand what is holding you back and help you to choose a more positive direction in your life.
I work with individuals and couples, whatever the relationship as well as family or work relationships. Exploring various aspects of the relationships whether as a couple, in a family setting or with work colleagues can lead to new perspective of discovering an awareness about oneself, your partner and what the relationship means to each other.
At Shirley Marais Counselling I offer you the client a safe space to explore your concerns and feeling at a pace that you decide where you are able to deepen your understanding of yourself and the way you are feeling.
How You Can Benefit
As your counsellor, I offer you compassion, sensitivity and an understanding of issues such as anxiety, relationship issues, bereavement, stress, chronic health and many more. By allowing you time and space in a non-judgemental way to talk through your feeling and these experiences I can help you explore ways to cope with these difficult situations in your lives. For some clients this is the first time that they have been able to voice how they feel without judgement or fear of not being hear. As you counsellor I will help you to understand these feeling and you will have my undivided attention and support throughout our counselling relationship.
Counselling can also help you become more secure in your relationships, gain insight into who you are, see new possibilities for yourself and help you grown to become more secure and understood and comfortable with who you are and help restore wellbeing and a sense of purpose.
I help individuals and couples who are struggling with life’s challenges, such as:
-Relationships either couples, families or work
-Loss and Bereavement
-Low Self esteem
-Being single, loneliness and isolation
-Bullying or intimidation (either in work or your personal life)
-Couples, partner, marriage difficulties (issues with intimacy, infidelity, communication or jealousy)
-Guilt, hopelessness or shame
-Loss in confidence
-Physical and sexual abuse
-Sexual identity, confusion and inadequacy
-Work stress (burnout, long/unsocial hours, redundancy)
As a relationship counsellor I work with both couples whether married or not, in a partnership or a same sex relationship. As a relationship counsellor I will help you to better communicate and listen to each other to explore the underlying issues that have given rise to your difficult situations.
I do not take sides but offer a different perspective into what you both may be experiencing. Relationship counselling can be very hard at times, but many couples find it worthwhile and learn to communicate with each other to both feel heard. Exploring various aspects of the relationship as a couple can lead to new perspective of discovering an awareness about oneself, your partner and what the relationship means to each other.
Relationship counselling also allows the space to help you say the ‘unsaid’ things that you need the other person to hear. This allows you to express feeling in a safe space which is facilitated by me your counsellor. If you feel the relationship is no longer working for one or both of you, or you decide to separate or end the relationship, counselling can also offer support through this difficult and painful process.
Who Can Benefit
Relationship counselling is very beneficial to couples who are experience communication difficulties, and to look at ways to understand each other’s feelings and help you to reconnect. Relationship counselling can help couples who are experiencing infidelity or trust issues.
It is often hard for couples to express feelings of being lonely or feeling neglected within a relationship or have a sense of feeling distance or distrust from your partner. As a relationship counsellor I also work with issues that cause distrust, addictive behaviours, infidelity, intimacy issues or sexual dissatisfaction.
I also work with couples who have suffered a major life change or challenges which could be:
-The birth of a child
-Illness or bereavement
-Loss of a child or still birth
-Post Natal or Pre-natal Depression
-Not having a child or
-Children leaving the home
-Chronic Health or Caring for parents.
I can also help you to explore broader issues such as work, career changes or moving to a new house.